A Mistress Among Many. Miss J Went to DomCon LA!

Posted on June 7, 2018 by Mistress J

Last month, I attended DomCon in LA. It was a birthday gift to myself, as I have always wanted to attend. DomCon was celebrating it’s 15th anniversary, and it was the weekend after my birthday, so it seemed like a good sign I should attend. I was only there for the weekend, from May 11-13, but the convention runs for a whole week.

I have attended many kink events here in the Bay Area. Many have been FemmeDomme oriented and others mixed energy. As a female dominant, I enjoy events with strong female energy, and while this was an event for both female and male dominants, there was LOTS of fabulous FemmeDomme energy swirling around. DomCon is an event for professionals and lifestyle enthusiasts alike, and was started by Mistress Cyan. You can read the history of DomCon here.

One of my favorite activities was sitting in the hotel lobby watching the non-kinky folk stare at the convention attendees gathered in the lobby. Folks were dressed in their finest leather, rubber, vinyl, lacy, black red, BDSM outfits. The actual convention area was blocked off and had security, but us kinksters enjoyed the lobby and restaurants as well.

It was very empowering for me to be at an event with such a strong female dominant presence, and one that acknowledged the legitimacy of professional domination. I enjoyed being a part of the Dominant women who strutted about, using their sexuality as a possible weapon and not getting punished for it I loved seeing Dommes of ALL ages being trailed by their submissives, especially the male ones. No catcalls, no grabbing, just being admired.

It’s also a gender fluid environment. I liked seeing altar egos or true genders embraced and on display as some people born with boy parts freely exhibited their feminine side and wore dresses in PUBLIC! There was even a cross-dressing pageant hosted by Alice in Bondageland. My sissy had broken out in hives, so we didn’t compete this year.

To be able to do this and not get harassed is something many cis-gendered white men cannot appreciate. They take this freedom for granted. I felt at this convention, the playing field was even, if not reversed. And it was FUN!

Shopping:

The shopping was fantastic and I bought a few things in the incredible vendor area. I love new things!

The soft green flogger is from Bunny Flogger. This one is so much fuller and heavier than my previous one. It has such a nice swing to it and throws nicely. This is perfect for sensual play.

I call the red thing my Dragon’s Tongue. It can provide a sensual little lick with the tip or provide a stingy swat. It depends on my mood. This was purchased from Agreeable Agony, and it was exactly what I was looking for to add to my tools.

Another thing at the Agreeable Agony booth caught my eye. These beautiful soy candles in the glass pitcher. I have a few friends that like wax play and these keep Mistress J’s fingers from getting burned. They also clean up nicely.

Leather by Danny had these cute little CBT boards. I really like this because the cock stays in place and I can torment it any way I like. I was being nice here, I used a shoe lace. But for really bad boys, I have some scratchy twine that will feel great on those tender parts.

Intrigued? Contact me. I’d love to use my new toys on you!

Mistress J Studios is a sex positive studio that provides a safe place for personal expression. Nude male photography, male and female submission, cross dressing and gender bending are welcomed and encouraged here.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

May is My Birthday Month. Read Some Birthday Porn.

Posted on May 30, 2018 by Mistress J

This is a made up fantasy. A product of my deviant and dirty mind. Enjoy.

(This is not offered in a session pervs, please don’t ask.)

Another year passes, time to add another candle to the cake!

My slut knows I enjoy my birthday, and that I enjoy presents. The slut arrives at my house, wearing a trench coat and a very strategically placed big red bow and nothing else.

At my nod he drops the coat and kneels in the middle of the living room. I am wearing a black see-through lace chemise without panties and silver stilettos. I slowly circle the boy, caressing his shoulders. I am wet with anticipation of unwrapping my gift. I notice the bow has moved and seems to be sticking further out. I tell him to kiss my feet and he obeys.

I lay the boy on his back and place a thin pillow under his head and a thicker one under his pelvis. Then, I tie his arms to the TV cabinet and his legs to the feet of the couch. He is a perfect starfish. Open, vulnerable and helpless.

I crouch over him and the slut gets a nice view of my creamy pussy. I decide I want some nice oral worship so I ride my sluts face. I alternate between smothering him and allowing him to fully taste and lick me. At intervals, I order him to gently bite and suck on my lips and penetrate me with his tongue.

The slut’s bow is standing at attention and I slide off his face and give him a good slap on the cock. I love the way his body twitches when I slap him.

I strap a chin dildo on this face then climb back on, taking my fill and pleasure on the large dildo. He squirms, being so close, but yet so far away from the prize he was so recently worshiping. I can tell he wants my lips back on his face. But I let him suffer as I fuck his face.

Wanting more, I slide off and rip off the purple bow. I slap his cock a few more times and it becomes super hard and red, dripping with white pre-cum that slides down to his balls. I am now hungry for my man’s meat, so I slowly impale him with my wet pussy. We both gasp with pleasure at that first touch. I love being in control of my fuck toy and I use him with pleasure and gusto.

I alternate between riding him slow and deep then hard and fast. His hips thrust wildly, the only movement his body can make. I keep him on the edge, when I feel him getting close, I slow down, or slap his face. I use him.

He is my gift, my present, and it is my birthday. It is all about me taking my pleasure how I see fit and I ride him until I come. I come hard and it drips down his cock forming a puddle at the base.

He wants to come, but I don’t let him. He whimpers in pleasure and pain at being denied. He loves to be used by me. He is just my pleasure object and he knows it.

I got what I wanted on my birthday. I got my bitch. 😉

How Liberating! Hands free pleasure at the studio.

Posted on January 29, 2018 by Mistress J

Mistress J is all about multi-tasking. So any devices that can help her do two things at once, or sit back and enjoy a show are always welcomed.

Recently, Texas Tim gifted me with the Liberator Wanda Magic Toy Mount, The Wand Essentials Strap Cap and the Wand Essentials Passion Pillow Wand Harness from Amazon. We had fun with the Liberator during our session.

Texas Tim has become a huge ass slut and I was determined to break in my new toys. Using the strap cap, I attached a nice sized dildo to my Lelo Cordless Wand.

Now I was ready to have some fun. At the appropriate time, the Texas slut presented his ass to me and I used the wand on him. The girth and curvature of the dong allowed me to keep it vibrating in his ass hands free and allowed me to prepare other delights, such as my strap on.

After pounding him with my strap on cocks, I decided he needed to entertain me. After all, he’s here for MY amusement, not the other way around.

He was instructed to straddle the Liberator complete with ass wand and ride it, Tim willingly complied. He squatted over the Liberator and his hole slowly swallowed the purple dildo. The firm foam allowed Tim to gyrate to his specifications, becoming an enabler of his pleasure.

I sat on the couch and watched.

I pointed the wand this way and that, alternating his positions as he sat this way and that.

I think he enjoyed it best when he straddled it while facing the smaller side of the pillow. His ass and his legs got a bit of a workout! Later, he told me he really enjoyed the Liberator and it might have been his favorite thing that day.

Next time, I will use the Liberator with my Hitachi Wand with P-Spot adapter on him and see how well that is received. I also have the sex stool, which in combination to the above could relieve leg fatigue. Hmmmm….

The Liberator can be used for a woman’s pleasure too. In fact, I think that was the original intent, but Miss J is a naughty thing.

Mistress J’s Desire:

This could be me with you watching.

I have the desire to restrain a slut and force him to watch me pleasure myself with my Lelo. I’ll be comfortable perched on the Liberator and can ride it how I see fit. Ah, the agony!

Here is a caveat. Please DO NOT ask (or beg) for this particular scenario. It is for me to decide if and when I want to do it. If you ask, it will not happen. No exceptions, not even hints or references.

If it happens, it will be a surprise.

As usual, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

Intrigued? Contact me.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

Having a Ball!

Posted on December 3, 2017 by Mistress J

Twist and shout

Bollocks! Mistress J loves to play with balls. They swing and bounce, they are fun to poke and prod and even twist! As my plaything, I get to do what I want to you. Instead of grabbing a fistful of dollars, I often will grab a fistful of balls!

Ball play is fun because it doesn’t need to be extreme, so everyone can enjoy. I grab both balls in one hand, pull them away from the body and twist. By keeping them together, there is no pain. Now, if you are craving a little pain, let me know and I’ll accommodate you!

twinkle toes

When things start to get serious in a session, I’ll take off my shoes. Now My toes can join in the fun! My toes like the feel of balls. I like to step on them, grab the ball sack with my cute little toes and pull. My visitor enjoys looking at my manicured feet playing with his privates. Sometimes, I’ll even give the hair a little tug.

In some cases, I don’t want you looking at me. When that happens, I turn you to the wall and go to town on the back of the balls! Poor baby…

Ouch!

For more extreme play and discipline, I’ll bring out my parachute that has little pins on the inside. The cute little chains that hang down are not only decorative, but serve a purpose. I can hang weights from them! And, as you can imagine, I have several.

For some reason, my male friends tend to walk on their tippy toes when this thing is dangling from the family jewels. Why is that?

The ice is right!

Things often get pretty heated here during a session with me. Have no fear, I have a simple remedy; a nice cold ice bag! This makes me smile just thinking about using it!

I get a lot of gratification playing with the gonads. This blog post only showcases a small sampling of the fun we can have together, so I suggest booking a session as soon as possible!

Intrigued? Contact me.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

Mistress J Goes on a Photo Shoot!

Posted on May 6, 2017 by Mistress J

Today (May 6) is my birthday! And, my gift to you is a link to my photo session and a description of my experience!

I bought Groupon for Krazy Zexy. I remember Kamran from when we were both in the wedding photography business. I knew he was a great shooter and had been doing boudoir photography for a while. I think by looking at his website, you see how good he is with posing and lighting. He is also very good at capturing the smoldering sexy woman lying just below the surface, a skill you don’t learn in school, but are born with.

Kamran recognized me when I emailed him and I told him these were business photographs and I was now a Bondassage practitioner. We had an email consultation about outfits and accessories and planned a date.

I was told to expect to be at the studio for about 3 hours. I arrived at 9 am on a Monday and had professional hair and makeup done. That was about an hour and a half. Then I sat a bit with Kamran.

This is when I was pulled out of my comfort zone. You see, Mistress J is used to being in charge. She is in charge of her sessions (as you all know). Even when she ran her vanilla photo business she was in charge. But here, I had to turn myself over to someone else and that’s a bit tough.

It started out like on of my sessions. He had me sit down and asked ME questions! Can you believe it? Questions about my work, personal life, how Mistress J came about, what did I want to convey, what were my hard limits and safe words.

After what felt like an hour of questions, but what was really only 15 minutes, we began to do the photos. This was the fun and the hard part. Hard because I was on the other side of the lens. I had to hold the uncomfortable poses. I was the one insecure about my short legs and such. But it was also fun being the center of attention. I got to be elegant and fancy. It was all about me I was the receiver and not the giver. This was exciting and new, and also a little uncomfortable, as I am most comfortable giving.

I got to experience what my long time client Frank experienced during his first of three photo shoots with me. I got to be the model. I was put on display and admired, and my hair looked good too, how fun is that!

The shoot went longer than three hours, almost five. I guess Mistress J is a muse for many, and Kamran was so caught up in me that we went over.

Here is one of my favorite images from the shoot. I think it captures my sassy and playful side, don’t you?

Enjoy the gift of looking at me today. I hope to hear from you soon.

Mistress J

Cock-A-Doodle-Do! A girl wears a ding-a-ling and the boys like it!

Posted on January 9, 2017 by Mistress J

Mistress J loves being a woman. She likes her lady parts and her curves. She likes seeing men drool at her juicy ass and perky breasts. She appreciates the gift of multiple orgasms and her power of seduction over men.

But once in a while, or several times a week, as is the case here at the studio, a tool she wasn’t born with must be employed.

That tool is the rubber cock.

I will now use this opportunity to switch from the third to first person.

Most of my clients like seeing me wearing a cock and using it in some way. I might be forcing it down their throat or sliding it up their ass. Either way, the sight of me in my strap-on literally and figuratively brings them to their knees!

Let’s talk about boys who like to suck a girl’s cock.

Since I am happy being a strong, powerful woman, I can honestly say I do not suffer from penis envy. THAT is reserved for my clients. They envy women who can strap it on and give it to a man in his mouth.

I enjoy making a guy choke on it, watching the drool and snot come out of his nose as he swallows my tool. I like hearing the sloppy sounds as he devours dick like it was a deliciously decadent dessert.

I especially like seeing a blow job virgin stare at the large willy in front of him, eyes wide with fear and doubt, wondering how he can manage it.

“Suck it up buttercup.” I tell him.

He struggles against a firm hand holding his head and forcing it down deep, my fingers buried in his hair. He experiences his gag reflex hitting the large object on the back of his throat. He feels the humiliation of drool dripping down his face and the difficulty to breathe as his nose becomes clogged with his own mucus as he fights to master the member.

Speaking of blow job virgins, I remember the fist time I had Allen* suck my rainbow bridge. I wrote about Allen last year, remember him? He started off so innocent, but quickly wanted more and more. One day, I told him he was going to suck cock. I stuck my rainbow beauty on the mirror and had him sit on the stool in front of it. He stared at it for a long time. He was scared, perhaps even a little angry Mistress J would demand such disgusting things of him.

Jumbo size. How do you guys walk around with these things?

Super Size it! How do you guys walk around with these things?

After looking at it and breathing deeply for about 3 minutes he began to pleasure the rainbow. As his throat opened up, he warmed up to my cock. Deeper and deeper it went. Soon, he was sucking like a well seasoned pro! I think he was hoping to reach the pot of gold at the end of that rainbow!

He liked it so much, one day he asked me to don my biggest dick and make him pleasure it. And pleasure it he did! And after he was done, his reward was to take photos of me in my big brown cock!

I have a variety of sizes to satisfy all my clients. I like to be able to cater to the newbie as well as seasoned cock suckers. The photo on the right is a small sampling of what I have to chew on here in the studio. I’m confident I have something just your size…

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about cock sucking & my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

*name changed to protect the not so innocent.

No cocks were harmed in the making of this blog.

Somewhere Over ( or under or around) the Rainbow! More Sluttiness at Mistress J’s

Posted on September 13, 2016 by Mistress J

Judy Garland once sang:

“Somewhere over the rainbow
Way up high
And the dreams that you dreamed of
Once in a lullaby…”

Many pervs dream of rainbows and butterflies, and here at Mistress J Studios in San Jose, California, I work hard at making those dreams come true. This Mistress likes pretty things, and nothing is prettier than a rainbow.

Crossing the rainbow bridge took on a new meaning!

When I came across this beautiful rainbow cock I couldn’t resist buying it. Created this year in honor of the Pride celebrations that take place across the country, I figured this would add a festive touch to my dong collection. I quickly learned the segmented colors are not only pleasing to look at, but serve a very interesting purpose.

Proudly standing at 8 inches of colorful fun, this cock is sure to please. One of the things I like about it is that it reminds me of a roll of LifeSavers® candy. Debuting in 1935, these hard to melt goodies have been making mouths water for 81 years. That’s a Hole Lot of Fun!

Speaking of mouth watering, I know MY mouth waters when I see a client eagerly sucking this rainbow bridge, hoping to please his mistress.

How low can you go?

Another fun aspect of the cock is using the colors as a measuring tool for deep throating. So far nobody has gotten past mid-orange.

The top of the yellow is four inches deep, the top of the green is two. Really folks, what’s a couple of inches between friends? I’d really like to see a slut take it deep into the yellow/top of the green for me. If someone can do that, they will get a very special prize.

Don’t worry, there are even more fun fruit flavors here at the studio!

The Candy Man once sang:

“Who can take a rainbow
Wrap it in a sigh?”

“Double your pleasure, double your fun”

I don’t think you will be sighing if I wrap your cock in my colorful Gates of Hell! Another special Pride edition toy, this one lives up to its name.

I like to think of the Gates of Hell as ‘a colorful ring, for your ding-a-ling‘! Ha ha, I crack myself up…

The website Kinkly describes the Gates of Hell: “The Gates of Hell is a male chastity device that gets its name from constraining the male penis when it is erect. The rings limit how big the penis can grow. It is called the Gates of Hell because it constrains the male erection in a state of pleasure.

Consisting of 3-7 rings. The first two rings constrict the penis and the testicles while the rest of the rings secure the penis in place. All of these rings are attached to a leather strap. By restricting the penis into a confined space, it causes the male penis to become extremely engorged, but difficult for him to ejaculate.”

I find it interesting that the colors for the balls are blue! ha ha.

As you can see, visiting Mistress J is like getting a taste of the tropics!

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about my style of Feminine Domination, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

All Wrapped Up and No Place to Go.

Posted on June 1, 2016 by Mistress J

all wrapped up For some, the ultimate way to surrender is tight bondage. The feeling of complete immobility due to a tight wrapping of plastic wrap, rope or chains gives a feeling of helplessness that can be quite appealing to a busy individual. With all control and decision taken away, there is no other choice but to submit.

Those tight restraints, whatever they may be, can feel like a pair of warm arms wrapping the receiver in a comforting embrace. Those who enjoy bondage, like that feeling. For them, it is safe and secure.

Most of my clients are men. I live and work in Silicon Valley, which has a high stress work environment for most. I am proud to say my personal work environment is not stressful (for me anyway) and the only office politics I have to deal with involve my cats. The tech environment is practically nonstop, very competitive with lots of male posturing going on. With all this pressure, there needs to be release.

This client wanted his head and tummy free.

Bondage alters the balance of power. A stronger partner can be rendered helpless, which in itself is an unusual experience for most men, being rendered helpless by a woman. A naturally active individual is made passive, forced to be still. Not being able to move is an unusual experience for most of us. Those that like it, CRAVE it. It concentrates the mind in a unique way. The experience can also be very meditative, after all, what else can you do when you are tightly wrapped and lying down?

Mistress J is rather fond of using plastic wrap, duct tape and bondage tape. After a discussion with my client I become aware of what areas he might not want wrapped. I always oblige, I want him as comfortable as possible.

Some folks are claustrophobic and don’t want a hood. Others may have tummy issues and need a bare midriff. Some might want their hands and feet free, while other wish them tightly bound. Sexy parts can be left open, the face. nipples, genitals, knee caps, etc. Those areas, if negotiated and agreed upon, can be used for my pleasure and his or her torment.

Sarge is admiring the German flag made out of duct tape.

One of my favorite bondage buddies loves being wrapped in plastic wrap, then likes the added hold of duct tape. This type of session allows me to do artistic tape work. The man in question is German, so I used this opportunity to demonstrate my flag making skills with duct on his back. My cat Sarge inspected my work and gave his meow of approval.

One small step for man…

It is very important that the Domme never leave a wrapped up person alone. I called my other German friend Helga to help me watch my bound Deutsche friend. She was thrilled to help and wore her favorite dirndl in honor of the occasion. It isn’t very often she gets to use a German man as a footrest! Sarge quickly discovered a new resting place, and hunkered down for a nap.

Since I get a lot of requests for this type of session, I wanted to see what all the fuss was about and had a friend wrap me. I am claustrophobic, and could not wear a hood without hyperventilating so we settled on a face mask.

I did enjoy the wrapping and resting. I relaxed until I had to use the facilities, then was quickly cut out and released. Note: One should have an empty bladder before being wrapped.

Miss J wants to see what all the bondage fuss is about,

An advantage to tape bondage is the quick cutting with safety shears. My client emerges much like a butterfly out of the cocoon.

Intrigued? Contact me.

If you are curious about my style of Feminine Domination and being wrapped in tape, I invite you to contact me for a session in my San Jose studio.

My email is mistressjstudios@gmail.com. I am in San Jose, California. I look forward to hearing from you.

Mistress J

Bondassage, Dominatrix and Photographer

Tag Archives: Bondage in San Jose

A Mistress Among Many. Miss J Went to DomCon LA!

May is My Birthday Month. Read Some Birthday Porn.

This is a made up fantasy. A product of my deviant and dirty mind. Enjoy.

Another year passes, time to add another candle to the cake!

How Liberating! Hands free pleasure at the studio.

Having a Ball!

Mistress J Goes on a Photo Shoot!

Cock-A-Doodle-Do! A girl wears a ding-a-ling and the boys like it!

Somewhere Over ( or under or around) the Rainbow! More Sluttiness at Mistress J’s

All Wrapped Up and No Place to Go.